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Hello Loves ❤

Its friday & i am feeling SO much better ❤

This is too good not to share!


❤ Amber


Getting mad at the blind for not being able to sort out colors

Good Morning Loves!

Yesterday or Tuesday I caught my son’s crud, his head cold. I am going to work after this blog.

yesterday I had a incident with a co worker that I worked with for years, that person had repeatedly  over the years commented how loud I am, and I constant remind people I am deaf I cannot hear those things but I would try to be more quieter, so this time was the last straw. my manager heard me clanging the dishes around and said I need to be more gentle, and I told him I didn’t realize I was being loud, and that I will keep in mind and try to be a bit more gentle next time when I thought I was being gentle. then the co worker reminded me how slow I could go and be much more quieter because I am so loud. I told that person “Remember I am deaf I cannot hear those things”

“Being deaf is not the reason, its an excuse” I swear smoke came out of my ears

“You may not believe me but deaf people and hearing people are completely different”

what was the response? a laugh a laugh of sure whatever, I was LIVID

if someone did that to me a couple months ago I would feel self conscious which I did end up feeling like that, but this time, I sent an email to that person with a bunch of links and resources of deaf person and their annoying habits. I made it clear to that person I was upset by it and insulted. It will be weird coming in to work to see that person, but I can simply put my head phones on, and focus on work, I may end up sitting at my desk during breaks, but I am trying not to be negative today, but I do not feel good, I told my friends about this, and one said to me

“Its like being mad at the blind for unable to sort out colors” she was right, I texted that person and expressed my feelings and the situation that happened and said what she said, and said have a good night see you tomorrow and never heard from that person, my guess that person is going to just ignore it and make it seem like I am the over dramatic one. it just, it does sting me when people think deaf people are just an excuse not a reason for our barriers

Today will be a good sick day – I will go to work with coffee, tea and water and do what I need to do, then go home, do laundry. I cannot let this get to me, but it just doesn’t help when I am in a cruddy mood when all three of us are sick.


Have a good day


❤ Amber


You have a story to tell…



Good Morning Loves!


I hope your mid weekday is going well – I could not resist but to see the positive quote of the day was – every single person on the planet has a story. I know I have a life time of stories to tell from the moment I was born and til now, how my name was picked (which was in the 1980s she was reading a harlequin book and picked Amber – everyone was Amber back then), from how I became deaf (measle shot – allergic reaction with bad ear infection caused 95 percent loss in 1 ear & 97 percent in the other AKA profound deaf) to learning to sign SEE (signing exact English) to doing both ASL & SEE since I use ASL words in English grammar and some SEE signs (like the ING To) and spent majority of my school years in speech therapy which helped me learn to speak. I was told “you are deaf, you have to work 2x harder to survive in the hearing world” that was how I was raised. I depend on interps as well.

I have a story to tell from being in a dysfunctional family yet I was raised by people who LOVED me so much, I was surrounded by many people & love, I was lucky. My childhood was complicated for me to explain. Some could pity “no child should go through it” but how I think of it, back then I had all these feelings hurt feelings, but at the end I am truly lucky I wouldn’t be who I am without that! To some cases of victims of tragedy situations which I still cope with to this day, to being the single woman moving out of the nest and living with her boyfriend who currently is husband, I never lived on my own but I have paid my own bills with my own money. To struggling to find a job because no one wants to hire a deaf person and I was not willing to work at a warehouse to hurt my body more than I already have problems with I worked at Target stocking / unload truck. To motherhood, weight loss journey(s), family, friends. I have learned a lot of life lessons as well, being dead broke to where we are now, almost losing a car because we were 3 months behind on car payments couldn’t afford to fix my car that was really bad & unsafe, to a very cheap dump house which was 650 a month, maxed out CC(s) which took us FOREVER to pay off. To being a home owner, a friend. I went through so many friends they came and went, I have a couple less than a handful that stuck by me, we talk to this day. They are family to me, I have handful of friends to count on as well.

I have lots of stories to tell, I do not feel pity, I do not want the pity party, I am lucky, I have a roof over my head, food on the table, my husband & child, family & friends. I choose happiness I choose positive! You are here for a reason, you have stories to tell, you are a story to share!


❤ Amber


What is important to you?



Good Morning Loves!


I hope your weekend went well – mine was pretty good, while Friday I was at home with pains (dysmenorrhea – serious pains and other symptoms currently going through testing trials to try different coping ways) however the pain on Saturday was tolerable I went to see some ladies when I am with them, while they are older than I am, I feel like a grown up being with them – J it was nice, and of course seafoods!! Sunday I took a friend and our kids to the fair and met up with another friend with her kids, then yesterday John was sick (cold – but hes doing so much better – he said his face hurt he had a rough night Sunday evening)

Life is good – still thankful. I realized it has been a while since I have actually blogged – looked up a positive quote of the day – lets look at that

“The Most Important things in your life are: Your friends, family, health, good humor and positive attitude towards life”

Do you agree with this? I do absolutely and the progress I have made in the past couple months shows – I still have my moments, I am only human, I am grateful for friends & that I am someone(s) friend. My family means everything to me, while I am still obese I am still working on living a healthier lifestyle I have slowly been losing weight, and I have been getting exercises as well and better self care. Having that positive attitude is important for your self and your environment / surroundings  – if you do not have that, then everything around seems bad. I could say that someone I know that tells the whole world the family does not do anything for that person, while that person had a lot of help then it turned out that that person got less and less things from that. That person does not let anyone forget how hard their lives were. And they do not get along now and that is a part of the reasons why they don’t.

People could sit there and go “ugh I have to see my in laws” do i?? nope, I make it fun – my parents in law and one of my sister in laws loves me – why? I treat them nicely and respect them, and they return that favor to me, I show them who I am, and they accept me. They enjoy it – but not everyone is compatible with each other while I respect other people I am still polite – I can only do so much I cannot force anyone to like me. Respect is important. When I dread to see certain people I sit back and ask why? What can I do to make it better? Eventually I stop making certain plans, because if they are the reason why I cant stay uplifted – the negative environment, I do not want it around me. I will still interact with them, if they are nice and respectful but if they are going to trash talk you – or me, then that isn’t what we need in our lives. It is SO easy to drag others in a bad mood with them, and it is harder to get them back up in the positive state of mind – a lot of the times people / we think the bad, and hang on to that. Have you heard the term: “we do not remember the good things but we remember the bad” that is AWFUL – it makes me sad when some people holds grunges… that does not work, it just makes things harder. It does not help your state of mind to think of other things or potentially the positive, people do change, situations do change if you give it a chance. I do not hold grunges, but when someone throws it in my face about something that happened over 10 years ago, am I really gonna remember that? That fight? No. I am not. I learned to let some go.

I choose to step forward, let the bad go and go to the positive ways, and it shows massive progress in the last few months, and since the haircut my makeover is complete, now I need to upkeep the plucking, face care and all the works, I can do it. I do not watch TV much because I have all these goals I want to do and I get more motivation, I may sit down on the couch with my husband at 7 pm for Big Bang Theory and knit. And I am happier that way.

When i come to work – i show up in a good mood even if I do not want to be there, It is good for me, and i love my job


How about you?

Have a wonderful week!


❤ Amber


One happy child coming up! (Pic)

Hello loves!

I figure while my hair is soaking in dye for a while, i have been ITCHING for a new do. It was time to donate my hair again, its been years but i know some happy kid will be happy 🙂 this time i gotta actually MAIL it i had others to mail them.

While my best friend had her hair cut. I immediately wanted another cut. I had seen my hair guy a month and half prior, texted him and he was so excited. Now im excited. I was freaking i mean its my hair!!!! Its so soft too. I realized DONATION i should donate my hair! I couldnt believe i have forgotten. Of course i trust my hair guy too 😀

Story of my hair guy, once he got his certificate from gene jorez (sp) salon academy, he didnt want to specialize in one thing. I literally started with him in his mammas kitchen, her house her kitchen to this salon about 20 min away to another 45 min away HES WORTH IT i couldnt stand anyone else doing it, to somewhere about 5 minutes away. ♡♡♡ hes a manager one day he will have his own salon. Its wonderful to see him grow here and there. I will follow him and stay loyal to his cuts 😀

I cannot wait to see my new do!

Have a good night loves



Fall.. FALL! Halloween! Horrors! (pics)



Good Morning Loves!


I do not know if I have mentioned how much I *love* fall & winter – Halloween is one of them! Gotta love the snuggles of blankets, hoodies, hot drinks, the cold crisp air. I have enjoyed Halloween ever since I was a little girl, once I got too old for trick or treating, I was taken to a haunted house, then every year I go at LEAST once… it’s a must. 😀 I also loved growing up watching horror movies: Chucky, IT, Jaws, those oldies! Of course pyshco! My favorite was 13th ghost, my first scary movie was Jurassic park – I must have been 12 when it came out, I would be in my grandma’s room, they had an adjustable bed, I would have it set as  hill like, so I would duck down those “scary” parts, the first day, I did it a lot, then I had nightmares, the next day I cut down half, by the 3rd day I was DETERMINED to not duck down… I watched the whole thing, of course now I am in my 30s the first one was kinda corny, but that’s good memory for me. I cannot wait to see the new one 😀

I got this at work – this 180 head spinning baby girl, I get to post it online, and of course I had fun with it, she did not work, but she looked AWESOME!

Please do share your favorite horror film, recommendations.

I still cannot sleep with the closet door open because of IT, and my body part has to be on the bed completely because of JAWS and Boogeyman… yes… I know… lame.


BUT plus side… I was able to get buy 3 get 3 free with dollar shipping of 30 dollars or more purchase  online bath body works – I stocked up on bath wash! 😀 yayiness!


Have a good day!


❤ Amber

PS – my friend is doing self empowerment blog – check it out!